Are you getting angry about yourself just by thinking you did some major mistake in the past? How many times in a day you are thinking “why you did wrong things in the past”. 

Probably you are living every day with the crippling guilt that is making you deeply uncomfortable, unhappy and unfulfilled. You weight down by shame and regret associated with that mistake. 

Every time you try to think of getting to engage in something else, that feeling of guiltiness just slips right back into your thoughts. Your heart hurts, and you feel nervous. You start to think that your single mistake will now ruin your entire life. It makes life so hard, and you just want to cry and to scream. 

A constant thought of something bad will happens in the future because of a single mistake victimized you for sorrow and misery. When you are unable to take that guilty feeling out of your mind, you feel helpless and even want to die. 

But the question is why you always think that you have make a mistake?

When your action is against social norms

Human being is a social animal. You prefer to stay connected with people from various circles including family, friends, relatives, neighbours and many more. In order to maintain a healthy relationship, you always want to create an ideal image of yourself in front of other people. For this, from your childhood you are conditioned to keep the things in perspective and act accordingly. 

Every society, culture and religion have their own norms and belief system. When you perform good things within the context of society, people appreciate you. This gives you a feeling of being loved and cared. However, doing something against society is considered as a fault. If your act is out of social context, unfortunately people start to discuss their speculations about you. 

A fear of being discriminated or receiving negative remark is worrisome. This feeling of getting hurt from people creates negative thoughts in your mind. At the same time, you are conditioned to feel guilty when you broke someone’s trust or expectations. This guilt usually comes from family members who taught you to feel bad for acting in a certain manner.

Balancing life in between social context and your own way is always an eternal quest. Your mind experience a constant conflict between people’s opinion and your own decisions. A feeling of damage to own social image makes you to think that you have done something wrong, and now you have to face bad consequences related to it in near future.

Your thoughts create a sense of guiltiness

From minute by minute to year by year, your brain is making choices. Most of the time you did certain action based on previous events or comparing your life with other people’s experiences. Initially, you may be on a right tract as you planned. But unfortunately in the end, these actions do not yield the good results as you expected. At this point, your mind starts to constantly assume all known possible consequences of your decision in the future. You start to think that the outcome of your action will be bad and people will blame you for it. 

This thinking is nothing but excessive imagination of future where everything seems problematic and fearful. The occupation of the mind with negative thoughts creates unnecessary stress and anxiety. Over the period of time, this anxiousness tortures your own self-esteem letting you to feel embarrassed about your own action.

Deep emotional trauma

As evolutionary measure, various kinds of emotions get generated in your mind to tackle your thought process. Feeling guilty for accidentally doing something wrong is just one of the natural process associated with your emotions. 

However, it could result in psychological disturbance in the form of irritation, frustration or sadness. The problem arises when you constantly indulge yourself in the same thought process. You get entangled in the spiral of negative thoughts to experience more sadness and helplessness. You start to feel nervous with loss of sense in the life. 

When your guilt is just an imagination, you started feeling sad for no reason. A thought of “there is no reason to be alive” makes you feel empty and worthless. Confession of your mistake with other people is not always an option. On most of the time you feel scare to share your guilty feeling with other because of vulnerability issues.

Whatever action you did or whatever decisions you have taken, both positive and negative impacts are expected in the future. So always take easy on yourself. Your bad action was just a moment, a small part of life. Instead of thinking about why you did mistake, focus on what you have to learn from it. Learn to prevent the same kind of actions from happening repeatedly. Forgiving yourself and moving on in life is always better than being occupied in sadness. Restart everything and try to do things in a better way. 

In the summary, forgive yourself and try to be strategic in order to conquer the world inside and out.

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